Refresh is an annual conference designed to create community for those caring for the modern day orphan according to the heart of the Father.
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This breakout could be lovingly called, "How to get your pastor to do what you want him to do...". If you feel led to create a ministry in your church that will care for the fatherless, support and encourage your own adoptive and fostering families, you might be thinking, "How in the world can we do this?" It all starts with the culture and a vision. Randy Harling will share what happened in his life and the life of First Baptist Simpsonville as they embarked on the ministry of orphan care.
Are they ALL yours?" Just one of the many questions you may be asked (...over & over...) when you have a large family. Whether you already have several children or plan to one day, come hear from two seasoned moms who have welcomed many children to their families through adoption. Learn some practical tips for 'making it work', learn how to manage a large household, learn about the struggles and the absolute joys of having a large family.
Are you curious, or even concerned, about the impact fostering or adoption may have on your biological children? If so, you aren't the only one! Though there will be ups & downs, it can truly be an amazing experience for the entire family. Come listen to what these two adult bio-siblings have to say regarding growing up in a large foster & adoptive family. Be prepared with any questions you may have! - Carlisle and Weldie kids.
Are you in the deciding phase? What are the differences between foster to adopt, domestic, infant, and international adoption? What is a dossier and why do I need one? How can I figure out which type of orphan care is for my family? This breakout will lead you in a discussion that will answer the basics of fostering and adoption. Also, get some practical ideas about fundraising for your adoption.
Learn about the long term impact of trauma on development from pre-natal to adolescence
Are you single but have dreamed of the day you and your husband would foster or adopt? Have you thought about pursuing care for the fatherless before your "happily ever after"? Come hear from two women doing just that! Mandie Joy and Chalice will share their personal experiences, the ups and downs, the challenges and the joys of single parenting.
The local church is uniquely to positioned to equip and support adoptive and Foster families, both before and after placement. Learn how your church can serve these families. This breakout is hosted by Dr. Rhonda Littleton who founded A Home For Me at First Baptist Simpsonville Church in Simpsonville, SC.
How to maintain the relationship and achieve real learning while confronting negative behavior
Caring for the fatherless through a church ministry can be about so much more than adoption! Churches are uniquely positioned to champion the cause of the fatherless in a multitude of ways; child sponsorship, local foster care, government, fair trade, fund raising....the list could go on and on. Rhonda, Mandie Joy and Chalice will share their personal experiences with business (Sarah Jane Project), international foster care, domestic foster care, short term mission trips and all the ways your church can DO SOMETHING.
When entering the world of special needs parenting, the list of new things to learn may feel endless. It can be an overwhelming and emotional journey, but it is so worth it! Come hear from two moms who have faced raising children with Reactive Attachment Disorder, countless medical conditions and various special needs (including down syndrome, autism, ADHD, etc.). Learn what some of the medical terms mean, different treatment approaches & encouragement in how to handle the emotional end of it all.
The Date with God is really about inviting the presence of the Lord into your adoption and foster care story. This is a time set aside to simply BE: be still, be prayerful, be quiet. Lights will be dimmed and soft worship music playing the entire time. You will have the opportunity to rotate between several stations that will encourage you to fellowship with our Abba Father. During a Date With God you will be able to paint, pray over specific prayer requests, pray over the nations, journal, read the Bible, or simply be still. You will want to find time in your day at Refresh to have this Date With God.
This will be offered during all 3 breakout sessions.
Tony Perdomo has been married for 11 years to a wonderful woman. They have a total of 8 children ranging in ages from 21 to 6. Tony and his wife were foster parents to their younger 6 children before they adopted them all. Their foster/adoption journey was over the time span of about 5 years and although the process was an arduous journey, they both believe whole heartedly in James 1:27 (Pure and undefiled religion before God and the Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their trouble, [and] to keep oneself unspotted from the world). Tony is the Mission’s Pastor at their home church, Calvary Chapel Greer, where he has taken teams of individuals to third world countries to help establish a basic foundational foster care system.
Tony has been in private practice for 12+ years, working in the areas of individual, children, family, and group therapies. He worked with the SCFPA for 7 years as a certified trainer for foster families and the state. The position with the SCFPA then turned into a collaborative position with the SCFPA, state level DSS, as a liaison for foster parents state wide for over 2 years. Tony's focus and desire for many years has been to help children deal with and overcome the effects of traumas that they have experienced in their lives. These traumas often manifest themselves in different medical or psychological disorders. Tony's goal was to educate foster parents in these areas so they could help their children and effectively deal with these issues. I currently work at The University of South Carolina Upstate as the Assistant Director of Counseling Center.
Ugandan Missionaries - SC native - Adoptive and Foster moms
Mandie Joy is a registered nurse who has been a foster parent to 35 children over the past 10 years and has experienced the good, bad, and beautiful of government, private, church-based, and international foster care. She is also the adoptive mother of Elisabeth and Emma who came home from Uganda in 2014 at the ages of 4 and 6. Her heart beats for people to find courage and freedom in God's greater story and in His ability to heal any wounds, restore any relationship, and redeem even the hardest and most mundane circumstances.
Chalice is the founder of the Sara Jane Project, an internationally sourced small business that provides employment to Ugandan women and supports both adoption in the US and family preservation in Uganda. She is currently a foster mom to a five year old little girl with some special needs. Chalice has always had a passion for supporting families and organizations that place vulnerable children in safe and loving homes and is so grateful to now be on this foster care journey herself. Despite all of the scary unknowns of foster care, she has found nothing more life giving than to get to be a part of directing broken little hearts to the Healer and the One who holds their futures.
Mandie Joy and Chalice met through mutual friends and discovered that they both lived life very similarly (willing to take big risks for Jesus). Chalice recently moved from Birmingham to Charleston to live with Mandie Joy and foster anyone who comes their way. These two single women are getting the hang of this combined family + constantly changing bonus kids + multiple kids in different schools + juggling birth families and caseworkers, but they are finding a sweet rhythm and loving the transparency and support of living in community.
President of Connie Maxwell Children's Home
Randy Harling began serving as President of Connie Maxwell Children’s Home in September 2014. Previously, he served as Pastor of First Baptist Church Simpsonville for 16 years. Randy graduated from Furman University and received a Master of Divinity from Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary. Randy, and his wife Sherri, have two sons and one grandson. Randy and Sherri have fostered four boys throughout the years. Randy is a member of the American Association of Christian Counsellors, the Strategic Development Council, a Board Member of Children Come First, Co-Founder and Board Member for “A Home for Me”. He is also a member of the Advisory Board for School of Business, Anderson University and the Baptist Courier. He also is the Chaplain for the Department of Social Services, Greenwood, SC.
Randy has preached and led conferences across the southeast and in nine (9) foreign countries. He believes that our most urgent mission field in South Carolina is to abused and neglected children and to their families.
Hannah Fay has her masters degree in social work from the University of Cincinnati and her certificate in Trust Based Relationship Intervention from Texas Christian University'sInstitute of Child Development. Hannah spent the first five years of her career working in the states with children from trauma backgrounds in therapeutic foster care and as a school based therapist. Hannah and her husband Darren spent the last five years serving in Mexico with Back2Back Ministries as foster parents, where they adopted their daughter, Claudia. Hannah currently is a stay at home mother to Claudia, 11 and Ellie, 3.